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The Truth About Friendsgiving

by Moira Stephens
Posted on Dec 06, 2018

Thanksgiving is a great tradition surrounded with food and family.  But for some with broken families or toxic family members, it’s a reminder of those hurtful relationships.

The unfairness is real because who doesn’t want to engorge in copious amounts of mashed potatoes and green bean casserole without doing all the preparation?  Enter: a fine alternative.

This adds a twist to Thanksgiving-- Friendsgiving.

Urban Dictionary defines friendsgiving as, “a special thanksgiving where friends get together to have dinner.”

This is a meal, usually on a Tuesday night, filled with 20-somethings’ attempts at making their parents’ signature dish.  It is equipped with cheap drinks, loud music, and lots of cheesy toasts and jokes. It provides full stomachs, happy hearts, and the fondest memories.  

It may not always be homemade food;  it could be cheddar biscuits from Red Lobster, or a party pack from Taco Bell.  All that matters is that everyone brings something to share along with an empty stomach.

The trend is incredible because although one may cuss quite a few times trying to nail her family’s party potato recipe, no one will be able to tell the difference between reduced fat cream cheese and regular cream cheese.

What happens at Thanksgiving that doesn’t happen at friendsgiving is the pestering questions from family members. Do you have a significant other? Why not?  Do you have a job planned? What do you plan on doing with that degree? Why don’t you have a significant other again?

Friends won’t ask those loaded questions with a judgemental undertone.  They’re going to ask you how your biology test went or what you plan on wearing to graduation.  It has nothing to do with judgement and everything to do with support. Friendsgiving is a great chance to take a night off from the books and unwind with your circle and simply veg out.

Thanksgiving has passed, so rally the troops and have a post-Thanksgiving Friendsgiving because this is where people can make it up as they go along.  Live in the moment. Eat your food. And never feel judged for getting seconds. Or fifths.